Lucid Dreaming Sex: Getting it on While you Sleep
When you were young, chances are that sexy dreams were at least a little inconvenient. Nocturnal emissions might have been the cause of embarrassing conversations and covert trips to the washing machine with your bedding in hand, though you probably can laugh about it now. In fact, there’s every possibility that you’ve come (pun not entirely intended) to enjoy these dreams and want to make them a more common part of your life. This is one of the most cited reasons for men choosing to look into the art of lucid dreaming sex-to get it on in their dreams.
There are a lot of benefits to lucid dreaming sex that are often understated by those who consider it “unusual” or somehow unappealing. Much like non-sexual lucid dreaming, this practice often results in a deeper understanding of one’s deepest desires, fears and fantasies. Someone who’s engaged in lucid dreaming sex can experiment in ways that they might not have the opportunity in their waking life. They can venture into unknown territory without risking harm to themselves or anybody else, or facing judgment from lovers who don’t understand their unique fascinations.
Truly, there is no downside to this practice! In your dreams you can have sex with whomever you want, wherever you want and in any manner that you want. But it’s not quite as simple as just going to sleep, drifting off and having ultra-nice dreams. In this article we’re going to talk about what lucid dreaming sex really is, as well as how you can implement this practice into your life-with results that are beyond satisfactory.
What is Lucid Dreaming?
Lucid dreaming is typically summarized by two things:
- Being able to manipulate the dream.
- Actually remembering your dream upon waking.
Many people who lucidly dream do so in hopes of gaining a better insight into their own minds by accessing the information kept away in their sleeping brains. For those who place a lot of stock in the value of dreams as a signal of mental wellness or troubled times, this practice can serve to enhance their ability to cope and achieve a greater understanding of what pains them emotionally.The Male “P-Spot”: The Key to Hands Free Orgasms
Lucid dreaming enables the dreamer the ability to consciously assess and even manipulate the course of their dream. This is essentially made possible by the brain reverting into “waking mode” while still asleep and actively engaged in dreaming.
This differs greatly from typical dreams, wherein the sleeping person cannot control what they are experiencing. These non-lucid dreams are often forgotten upon waking, which can be a frustrating experience if you’re trying to document your dreams or simply recall them for the sake of it. And again, unlike typical dreams, the dreamer gets to choose when they wake up from a lucid dream. This is much more pleasant a way to wake up than the jarring, startling effects of being thrown back into the waking world from an ordinary dream.
No, we aren’t talking about anything supernatural, paranormal or otherwise “spooky.” Lucid dreaming is normal, healthy and perfectly fine-and it has nothing at all to do with “the other side.” In fact, many people who claim to have out-of-body experiences are believed to have been lucidly dreaming during the events that they recall. Lucid dreaming is a normal part of sleep, but it does require some practice and knowledge to take advantage of it on command.
How to have Lucid Dreaming Sex
If you want to bring your kinkiest desires to life in your dreams, you have to know how to lucidly engage with them. This is often the part where people get stuck, because it sounds like you’re about to embark on some grand and difficult undertaking. While there are certainly some steps involved to getting on the track toward lucid dreaming, if you approach the process with patience and understanding that it might take some time before you’re a master of your sleeping mind.
The most common method used, which we suggest to all of those trying to seize control of their dreams for the first time, is called the Wake Back to Bed (WBTB) method. This practice works fairly quickly in helping most people to lucidly dream which, paired with its effectiveness, makes it one of the most well-known and established methods of inducing lucid dreams.
The Wake Back to Bed Method
Step One: Sleep for six hours.
This part is the easiest-unless you really struggle to get out of bed with less than eight full hours of sleep. Go to sleep as you normally would, and set your alarm to wake you up after six hours of uninterrupted slumber. This is key because after six hours, you will engage your conscious brain when you would normally be in the throes of REM sleep-the deepest sleep that enables dreaming.
Step Two: Wake up.
Set an alarm for six hours after you fall asleep or have someone wake you up. You need to get out of bed and fully engage both your body and your mind for this to work most effectively, so throw off those covers and get moving! To stay in the right frame of mind, we recommend reading or listening to information about lucid dreaming during this time. Step two should last no less than twenty minutes and no more than sixty.
Many lucid dreamers recommend using what are known as “reality checks,” routine practices that establish when you are in the waking world versus the sleeping, dreaming world. To conduct these reality checks is fairly simple: just do something that you can implement easily in your waking and sleeping realities. These checks are composed of simple gestures, such as pressing your fingers to your palm or pinching your forearm. When nothing, except for the sensation of the action itself occurs, then you know with complete certainty that you are awake.Beginners Hands Free Orgasm Guide
It is also seen as important to attempt these reality checks when in a lucid dreaming state. Whatever your chosen method of checking yourself is, it should remain consistent between when you are awake and when you are dreaming. So if you pinch your arm during the day and say “I am awake right now,” you should do the same thing during your dream-except you should say, “I am dreaming now.”
These reality checks are not just implemented before and during bedtime. Those lucid dreamers who find this practice effective recommend doing as many as ten of these gestures per day. This creates a stronger
Step Three: Back to bed.
After your brain has been stimulated and you feel awake, it’s time to return to bed in hopes that when your eyelids close and your mind drifts off, that you will experience lucid dreaming. Many dreamers who use this method implement visualization techniques to help themselves focus, such as:
- Making affirmations that they will have lucid dreams. Try phrases like “I will remember that I am dreaming,” “I will have a lucid dream tonight,” “What happens next is going to be a dream,” and “I am dreaming now.” Repeat these phrases to yourself as you begin to fall asleep. This practice basically programs your mind for lucid dreaming.
- Visualizing the dream that they would like to have. In the case of lucid dreaming sex, you might think of who you’d like to be sharing the dreamscape with, what you would like to do with them and what kind of atmosphere you’d like to find yourself in during the course of this dream.
As you get closer and closer to drifting off to sleep, it is very possible that your mind will wander during this time back in bed. Try your best to focus and repeat these affirmations and visualizations until you are no longer awake. This repetition commits these images and thoughts to memory, making them much more likely to occur in your dream.
Basically, your last thought before you actually fall to sleep should be about lucid dreaming-particularly the kind of lucid dream that you would like to have.
Using Nootropics to Aid in Lucid Dreaming
You don’t need any special equipment or pills to have lucid dreams, though many people do make use of lucid dreaming nootropics. These are brain-enhancing drugs that are said to more easily open up the brain to the option of lucidly dreaming, and are quite popular items sold to lucid dreamers online. Some of the most popular lucid dreaming nootropics on the market today are listed below.
- Galantamine, which has been used in the treatment of Alzheimer’s Disease and other memory impairment disorders.
- Alpha GPC. Like Galantamine, Alpha GPC has been used to treat Alzheimer’s patients as well as other memory loss-related conditions that occur as a result of age.
- 5-HTP, a compound that has been known to help those with depression and sleep disorders.
- Huperzine A, which is created from a type of Chinese moss. It is also used in the treatment of Alzheimer’s, but is also taken by students who need to improve their memory during their studies.
- L-Theanine, a naturally occurring amino acid which is found in green tea and is known to improve one’s mood.
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In no way are these drugs necessary to have lucid dreams, but many dreamers find that they do make the process easier. If you have tried the nootropic-free method of inducing lucid dreams with little to no success, these medications can be used to give your brain the extra “push” that it needs into the right direction.
Expectation is Reality
When we say “reality,” we are referring to the alternate reality that you are experiencing in your dreams. Some lucid dreamers don’t go into this practice expecting anything particular, preferring to just “go with the flow” and let whatever happens, happen. This is fine, but not extremely effective for most people. We recommend having a specific scenario in mind before you drift off to sleep, and to reinforce it throughout your dream.
For instance if you say “I want to have lucid dreaming sex with (insert your fantasy lay here)” during the Wake Back to Bed method of lucid dream induction, you should be consistent and repetitive both in your dream and in your waking hours. Reinforcing the imagery that you want when you are awake will have more profound effects once you have found yourself inside of a lucid dream.Erotic ASMR: Hands Free Orgasm with Sound
Whatever you expect to happen in your dream will likely happen once you have mastered the art of lucid dreaming. If you expect to be rejected by your chosen person, then you will likely be rejected in your dream. Ouch. In this way, approaching the subject of your dream-while in your dream-can feel a lot like making a move on someone in the waking world. Confidence is important!
Orgasm and the Lucid Dream
The point of sex, for most men anyway, is to have an orgasm. This remains true in the case of lucid sex dreams, though climax should probably be postponed until the last moment if you can manage it. Becoming too excited and reaching orgasm is almost guaranteed to wake you from your sweetest lucid dreams, so make it count. To yield a rich and fulfilling experience from lucid sex dreams, it is advisable to start out slow with your dream-partner.
That is unless, of course, you want to have a “dream-quickie.” But since lucid dream induction can be a difficult process for some, most people like to feel that they have not wasted their time and energy by having short, ultimately unsatisfying, lucid sex dreams.
Sex in a lucid dream is much like sex in the waking world, and your personal experiences while awake will likely weigh in on how the dream transpires. In the case of those who have not yet had sex in their real lives, dream sex will feel how they expect it to-again playing into the “expectation is reality” thing that we mentioned above.
You can experience lucid dreaming sex of any kind. If you can dream it, you can engage within the dreamscape in a more interactive way. In sexy, non-lucid dreams, you are entirely out of control of what goes on and who else is starring in your subconscious fantasies. While this might not be a bad thing one hundred percent of the time, this leaves room for a lot of surprises-some of which might not be so good. Dreams are much more satisfying when we have some control over what’s going on in them.